Today's young people are more idealistic, picky and looking for a soul mate instead of just a spouse. Ansari paints an interesting picture of where relationships were and where they are today.

While it is funny, it is also a surprisingly well researched serious study of dating in America circa 2015.Īnsari uses research and interviews with a wide variety of people, from college age to senior citizens to find out how people met, what they were looking for, and how the relationships ended up.Īnsari's own background includes parents who were in an arranged marriage, so he looks at the choices his parents had, limited choices that the older generations had, and the overwhelming choices that young people have today.Ĭouples from older generations were much more likely to be willing to settle and were not as picky as young adults today according to his research. Agent: Richard Abate, 3Arts Entertainment.This book was not at all what I had expected, which was a funny book by one of America's young, smart comedians. Popular Tumblr “Straight White Boys Texting,” sex columnist Dan Savage’s thoughts on open relationships, and Ansari’s personal dating maxim, hilariously dubbed “the Flo Rida Theory of Acquired Likability Through Repetition.” Despite Ansari’s insistence otherwise, most of this material has been covered exhaustively elsewhere, but Ansari’s oddball sense of humor does bring something new and refreshing to the conversation. The book is steeped in pop culture, featuring examples from the “the paradox of choice,” the differences between “companionate” and “soul mate” marriages, and a generational conversation spurred by a visit to a retirement community. He also dives into the sociological theory at play, discussing Ansari addresses the effects of technology on modern relationships with an amusing historical overview, beginning with the classified ads and video dating services of the 1980s and ’90s, before chronicling the rise of industry giants such as and Tinder.

This book collects the insights gleaned from a variety of research methods: focus groups in major cities around the world, crowdsourcing on the website Reddit. Inspired by his own romantic woes, comedian Ansari teamed up with sociologist Klinenberg in 2013 to design and conduct a research project to better understand the dating game as it’s played today.

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